Help Stop Dating & Domestic Violence: KNOW to Say NO NOW

KNOW the Facts About Dating Violence

  • shows abusive, controlling or aggressive behavior.
  • displays verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse.
  • monitors your activities and demands explanations for your whereabouts.
  • shows extreme jealousy and controls your relationships with others.
  • belittles you by criticizing you while alone or in front of others. 
  • controls the relationship by making decisions for you. 
  • shows disrespect by not listening or displays lack of interest when you talk.
  • physically threatens or hurts you.

KNOW the Statistics

  • 43% of dating college women report experiencing abusive dating behaviors including physical, sexual, tech, verbal or controlling abuse.
  • 29% or one out of three college women say they have been in an abusive dating relationship.
  • 57% of college students who report experiencing dating violence said it occurred in college.
  • 58% said they do not know how to help someone who is a victim of dating abuse
  • 38% of college students say they don’t know how to get help for themselves if they were a victim of dating violence

Say NO to:

Controlling Behaviors

  • Not letting you hang out with friends
  • Checking often to find out where you are, who you are with and what you are doing
  • Telling you what to wear
  • Needing to be with you all the time
  • Checking your phone or Facebook

Verbal or Emotional Abuse

  • Calling you names
  • Jealousy
  • Belittling you – cutting you down
  • Threatening to hurt you, someone in your family or himself/herself if you don’t do what he or she wants.

Physical Abuse

  • Shoving
  • Punching
  • Slapping
  • Pinching
  • Kicking
  • Hair Pulling
  • Strangling

Get Help NOW if you or someone you KNOW is a victim of dating violence.

You have a right to be safe. Communicate your concerns to a friend or parent or contact JCCC police, college officials or counselors.

Tips for Ending an Abusive Dating Relationship

  • Create a safety plan, like where you can go if you are in danger.
  • Make sure you have a working cell phone handy in case you need to call for help.
  • Create a secret code with people you trust. That way, if you are with your partner, you can get help without having to say you need help.
  • If you're breaking up with someone you see at your high school or college, you can get help from a guidance counselor, advisor, teacher, school nurse, dean's office or principal. You also might be able to change your class schedules or even transfer to another school.
  • If you have a job, talk to someone you trust at work. Your human resources department or employee assistance program (EAP) may be able to help.
  • Try to avoid walking or riding alone.
  • Be smart about technology. Don't share your passwords. Don't post your schedule on Facebook, and keep your settings private.
  • If you are ending a long-term or live-in dating relationship, you may want to read our section on domestic and intimate partner violence.

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The KNOW program is JCCC’s prevention and education efforts to help stop relationship violence in support of title IX, the Violence Against Women Reauthorization Act, the SaVE Act and Clery.